MOTHER WOUND

Introduction To the Mother Wound

When we share the words – mother wound, inevitably, most people will draw a small breath. You hear it catch in the throat as they censor their response. The big taboo subject in society is saying anything openly about our experience as a mother or our relationship with our mother. This default mechanism instantly triggers guilt, shame, and fear.

If your experience has been so awful that there is still a rise or a catch felt when you talk negatively about your mother, then this is for you.  The mother is the first person that we connect with, she is our first love affair, and unlike what most people think, this starts from the moment of conception.

Every thought, feeling, and emotion goes straight from mother to baby. If a mother is uncertain about her pregnancy, the baby already starts to feel the disconnect. It starts to decide that the world is not a safe place in the womb. This can lead to a lifetime of feeling that you do not belong here, a sense of constantly searching for a home, and never really feeling that you fit anywhere.

From the moment we come into this world, we rely on the mother for our safety, needs, food, shelter, love, belonging, and security. Research has discovered that eye contact between mother and child has been linked to brain mapping and the child’s development. It releases oxytocin in the mother and baby, often called the cuddle hormone. The baby language we all think is just senseless sounds is a complex language between mother and child that enhances brain development.

Their whole world revolves around this one person. How often have you sat in a café and watched the interaction of a mother and a child? They watched intently, waiting for their mother to look at them, squealing in delight to receive a smile or a comforting word.

But what happens when this contact is limited or non-existent? What happens if the mother is depressed, unavailable, too busy, or has her head stuck on the phone rather than interacting with the child in today’s society? What if parenting isn’t all you thought it would be? Also, more and more mothers are forced to work, limiting their children’s time. They feel stretched, guilty, and in some cases, shame that they are not living up to expectations. What if you were that baby?

As a mother, you are often riddled with guilt about how you have failed. If you happen to be the child of an unloving mother, then becoming a mother is even more daunting. How many of us have said, “I will never be like my mother,” and before you know it, a few sleepless nights, hormones going wild, and ta-da, your mother is coming out of your mouth.

Having grown up with a strict mother, I know this feeling. I have been working on my mother- wound for over 40 years. I lost my mother when I was 12 years old. So, there was never an opportunity to change our relationship. I was at war with a ghost. One of the hardest things I had to overcome was the limiting beliefs, sabotaging behaviors, addictions, and depression over the unrealistic expectations I had placed on myself as a mother and the daughter of an unloving mother. I had to learn to separate myself from what was in my mind, from the actual reality. She had been dead for almost 40 years, so I was the only person keeping alive the pain, abuse, and suffering.

It took a lot of deep searching, going within, help, and training that get me to a point where I can think of my mother as a human being who has had a human experience. She was not infallible, nor am I, which is perfectly ok. As Brene Brown says, “we are perfect in our imperfections.” This was a book that would embark me on a 3-year journey through shamanism (and Dr. Strange, but that’s another story) to find myself, love myself, and accept myself. To forgive the past, to let go of the pain, and to see the true joy in every experience that I have had the privilege as a human being to experience and grow from.

I look forward to taking this journey into the mother wound with you. I am here to support you and hold a safe and sacred space to allow the past wounds to transform into the lessons for the future.

May you find the peace and joy I have been able to find in walking this journey before you.

Duration: 3 Days
Location: TBA
Cost: TBA
Date: TBA
Limited to 12 per group